Please, before that look of disdain sets upon your face, hear me out. It’s okay, to serve your spouse. And I don’t mean with divorce papers! Just had to make sure I clarified that. No, what I mean by serving your spouse is putting their needs before your own. Piece of cake, right? Umm, of course not. Because what if I end up doing most of or all of the serving and never get what I need? Personally, my struggle is still some what real in this area, but my thinking has completely changed.
When my husband Austin and I got married, we became one. (Mark 10:8 reads, ” And the two shall become one flesh, so that they are no longer two, but one flesh”.) So there is no longer I, just being me, or my, or myself. Sure we have different roles, but we function as one unit. Now keep in mind that we had great counseling before saying, “I do”. It’s just that more than often you don’t feel the heat of those vows, until you are tested by the fire. Can I get a, Amen! I’m just saying.
Anyway, I’ve learned if I’m serving my spouse, I am serving myself.
Ephesians 5:22 – 29 reads,”Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is head of the wife, as also Christ is head of the church; and He is the Savior of the body. Therefore, just as the church is subject to Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything. Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her, that He might sanctify and cleanse her with the washing of water by the word, that He might present her to Himself a glorious church, not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing, but that she should be holy and without blemish. So husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies; he who loves his wife loves himself. For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as the Lord does the church”. See this scripture makes sure we both get what we need.
So to rap this up. Be a good sport, or even better a great spouse and ask your love, “Baby, how may I serve you”? And receiving spouse remember, good service, deserves great tips!
Again, I’m just saying.
~Blessings and Shalom~